In early November, I attended the 25th Anniversary Summit and Gala for the Islamic Social Services, Association-USA in Tempe, Arizona. It was a wonderful event that included four rich, well-moderated, and insightful panel discussions about essential topics related to marriage including – premarital counseling, metaphysical connections, and addressing domestic violence. While looking through the program booklet for the event, something caught my eye—a list of 10 hacks for a winning marriage. Inspired by this list, I thought it would be meaningful to look at each hack, what it signifies, and how it can help cultivate a winning marriage.
So, here are the 10 hacks with actionable ways they can help cultivate a winning and healthy Muslim marriage.
1. Pray and Dhikr Together
One of the most fulfilling ways to connect Allah, Most High is through prayer and dhikr. Sharing this daily act of worship with your spouse can enhance the spiritual connection you have with each other. Setting aside time to pray together when possible can not only strengthen the spiritual bond but can also foster a sense of peace and tranquility.
2. Set a Regular Date Night
Amidst busy schedules, it’s essential to prioritize quality time together. Establish a regular date night where you can enjoy each other’s company without distractions. Whether it’s a dinner at your favorite restaurant or a cozy night at home, this dedicated time will help you reconnect and strengthen your relationship.
3. Establish a Technology-Free Zone
In our tech-driven world, distractions are everywhere. Create a technology-free zone in your home—perhaps during meals or while relaxing in the evening. This practice encourages meaningful conversations and allows you to focus entirely on each other, enhancing your emotional connection.
4. Read Quran Together
Reading the Quran together can be a deeply enriching experience. It allows you to share insights, discuss meanings, and reflect on the teachings of Islam as a couple. Make it a weekly tradition to read a few verses and share your thoughts, deepening your understanding of your faith and each other.
5. Study the Life of Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him)
Learning about the life of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), especially his relationships with his family, can provide invaluable lessons for your own marriage. Consider studying his teachings and the dynamics of his family life together. This knowledge can inspire you to embody the same compassion and respect in your own relationship.
6. Take Up a New Hobby Together
Engaging in a new hobby can reignite the spark in your marriage. Whether it’s cooking, gardening, or a sport, finding a shared interest fosters teamwork and provides opportunities for fun and laughter. This not only strengthens your bond but also creates lasting memories.
7. Attend Conferences Together
Participating in Islamic conferences or workshops can be an enriching experience for couples. These gatherings provide opportunities for learning, networking, and growing spiritually together. Attending such events can enhance your shared values and deepen your commitment to one another.
8. Read Books Together
Choosing a book to read together can spark discussions and ideas that enrich your relationship. Opt for books that resonate with your values, whether they focus on personal development, spirituality, or stories of faith. This shared activity promotes intellectual growth and connection.
9. Get Your Wills Done Together
Planning for the future is an essential part of a strong and responsible marriage. Take the time to sit down and discuss your wills and estate planning together. This important task not only ensures that both of your wishes are honored, but it also fosters open communication about your values and priorities. By navigating this process as a couple, you strengthen your partnership and demonstrate mutual care for each other’s well-being and that of your family.
10. Go on Nature Walks Together
Spending time in nature has a calming effect and can help reduce stress. Plan regular nature walks where you can enjoy the beauty of Allah’s creation while discussing life, dreams, and aspirations. This peaceful environment fosters deep conversations and strengthens your emotional bond.
Conclusion
Building a healthy marriage is an ongoing journey that requires effort, commitment, and creativity. By incorporating these ten hacks I can see how it can help cultivate a loving and supportive relationship that stands the test of time, insha’Allah. The foundation of a successful Muslim marriage lies in faith, communication, and shared experiences. Embracing these practices can definitely help a marriage flourish, insha’Allah.
